For a while I have been getting e-mails from bloggers that look a bit like spam. It is usually from someone I have never heard from, and they profess their love for my site and then ask me to link back to them. Now the part that makes me think this is automated spam is that almost all of them have the following line-
“I really like the post about ___________.”
This is the only time they mention anything about my blog and what they like about it. For some time, what would fill in the blank would be ‘cell phone slave’. Okay, it’s bad grammer but it’s the Internet. I suspected it was some sort of automated system that was searching for words on my blog but I wasn’t entirely sure. Last month though, these e-mails took a hilarious turn as it was Halloween month.
“I really like the post about dead woman.”
‘dead woman’ is apparently the best thing I have written. I have received about 7 e-mails so far praising dead woman. I like to call it Haunted House of Bondage, which you can find on the sidebar there.
Now is as good a time as any to say what fits in that apparently greatly coveted sidebar. You will get linked if one of the following applies,
A) We’re buddies.
B) You create erotic content that I like to read or look and it inspires me.
C) You don’t write erotica, but you have a sense of humor that makes me smile.
D) You have stopped posting but I am not ready to give up on you yet.
E) I check your site everyday anyway so if I am ever on someone else’s computer, I can just go to my site and use it as a temporary favorite places link.
F) You’re newish and I think you deserve a bigger audience than you are getting.
I resist the urge to just throw everything under the sun on that link list. It would make my life easier and make a lot of people happy, but when I visit other sites that have a hundred links, then I usually ignore those links. It just looks like noise to me. By keeping my list down to a dozen or so, I hope to really spotlight some people I like to read.
I also try to not update the link list except every couple of months. That gives me time to really be objective when I add/drop links. You can be the best writer I have ever read, but I’m still waiting a month to add you just in case I lose interest next week.
I also don’t understand the concept of link trading. If you like me and want to share my content with the visitors to your site, go right ahead. You don’t need my permission but at the same time, I do not feel indebted to post a link to you on my page. I’m sorry but I just don’t love you that way. As you may well know, I am currently too busy writing about ‘dead woman’ and my time is limited.
What has been your favorite link request?