This may surprise you but I am awful with rope. As much as I love BDSM, I am much more into the mental aspects than I am into the actual bondage. I like to make the submissive hold a position, or I give them a task like holding something up while I do terrible things to them.
My last submissive spoiled me though. She had a bag of shackles, chains and all sorts of things I had thought I didn’t need. I was so wrong. Once you actually have a person’s hands tied behind their back, you really start to get the imagination flowing. Every time I restrained her, I found something new to do.
That submissive is with other people now and she took all her toys with her. I have started to build my own collection but it can get expensive. Rope however is not. Cost wasn’t the only factor. There is a little bit of machismo involved. I mean, if I tell a stranger that I have been interested in BDSM since I was a teenager, that person expects me to be able to hogtie a cheerleader and have her ready for punishment in five minutes. And you know, I don’t think that is too much to ask.
The first thing I discovered is how hard it is to find good tutorials for knots. I often find pictures of the end knot, but that is like looking at one of those spaghetti mazes where you are supposed to follow a line to the lost puppy. If any body knows of a website that does, please tell me.
The second thing I discovered was that I really needed some idea of what to do with the knots once I could do them. For that I found Erotic Bondage Handbook. Over half the book is safety tips and other basic things you should know about BDSM. A lot of that was second nature to me but the safety details for rope were invaluable. He teaches how to buy rope, which knots to use and several ways to tie your lover that I sadly have not gotten a chance to try yet.
He recommends starting with your thigh so here we go. I doubt I will be using this rope in actual play but I do love the purple. I’m not sure what someone would do to me with my thigh secured but I’m sure some of you can think of a few ideas.